Sometimes a wish, sometimes a desire to better oneself, sometimes merely an empty promise! This year, I resolved to cut down on “useless” resolutions; I firmly believe that all of us have an innate desire to be better people, but the real proof of the pudding is in the eating thereof... I should clarify before I go on, that I regard as “useless” all resolutions which are not kept, and ones which are made in the full knowledge that they won’t be kept! I wrote down a list of all my resolutions, my hopes, my aspirations, my ambitions for the coming year: it makes for a lot of reading in the original form! Therefore, I did some pruning, and came up with some resolutions which I promised myself, and which I am fully capable of fulfilling:
- To respond more promptly and carefully to my pen pals. This won’t be an easy resolution to keep, but I would say that penpal friendship is still a hobby to me, nay, more than a hobby, as these people are my friends. I will make time in my schedule and room in my wallet to post out my snail mails, and be better organised to reply to those with whom I communicate electronically.
- To study. It goes without saying, that if I don’t make every effort with my Chemistry studies, I have no chance of gaining a place on August’s nursing programme at Dawson. Already suffering the consequences of serious procrastination, my studies are a lot more than a casual whim- they are a route to my career and livelihood, the means to give my family and friends what they need and deserve.
- To better my French. After my French course is over, I will have an attestation to say I sat through the programme, but that will count for nothing si je ne pratiquerai pas la langue du Molière chaque journée! I simply have no excuses, being married to a Francophone and living in this district for over a year. I hope to continue my learning, albeit unofficially.
- There are many activities that I want to get out and do, or stay in and do! As these are aspirations rather than resolutions, and some of them are very difficult to realise, let’s just stick to resolving to concentrate on the activities that others can enjoy as well as myself.
Normally, people compose their New Year messages with some form of retrospective: in my case, I prefer to think in the present, because dwelling on the past never did me any favours. Perhaps some events in 2010 deserve mention though!
- Losing my job: while for some people this is a disaster, and yes, it was not easy, yet it gave the kick start to a career I had long wanted to follow! I was beginning to get tired of working in the call centre, trying to sell products against my ethics while ostensibly giving customer service… on a positive note, it did introduce me to some good Anglophone friends and colleagues, gave me a moderate income, and meant that when I was laid off, I could go back to school to take up my ambition of a career in nursing. I survived through my first Canadian Winter, though it was far from typical, and I only had to walk 200 metres between the Metro station and the workplace in the Plateau of Montréal, in slushy snow. The commute was rather a bore, but I enjoyed speaking to Canadians from almost every province, and felt less isolated in a country that had seemed dominated by French speakers at first arrival.
- Outings: Though we did not go as far afield as last summer, we did try out more local experiences, visiting for the first time the Islands of Boucherville, a real treat for a nature lover like myself. We spent memorable hot summer days cycling and walking around our area, exploring and enjoying the fresh air, thanks also to my amazing wife for splashing out on an amazing bike to get me more mobile in the absence of a car!
- Hobbies: Having a bit more free time whilst going back to school and being off work, gave me time to reawaken some hobbies which had taken a back seat while I was working. My Sylvie bought me some art materials to replace those which I had left in England, and inspired by the requests of my fellow students, I took up painting again. I also began writing again to my pen pals, new and old, having realised that this was more than just a hobby, but an important part of my life. A disappointing postal service has rendered snail mailing expensive and disagreeable, but I hope that things improve in the new year. Particularly successful were the paintings which I made for fellow students and also as a leaving gift for a retiring professor at my school!
- School for “francisation”: This has so far been one of the best experiences of my life! I am very grateful to the government which takes such pains to integrate immigrants, by donating free classes to learn the French language. As I already speak one of the official languages of Canada, I was surprised to be accepted, but it means so much to me! Not only do I have better job prospects, but I understand the majority of my neighbours, I can form new friendships and talk to my fellow countrymen, and I feel much more like a part in the society here. I have formed some wonderful friendships that cross the boundaries of race, religion and background, and those close to me have been able to share in those friendships, so everyone has benefitted! I will be immensely sad when the course is over, in late January, but hope to keep in touch with the wonderful students and professors, among whom I am proud to count many friends!
- People! I realised, not for the first time, but stronger than ever, that I am innately quite a sociable person! This has been a year of making and forming many new friendships, with people from across the globe! The picture above, taken this Christmas, is just one example of many, many happy memories, showing my Colombian and Ukrainian friends from the French classes, along with my beloved wife and one of our “girls”! I’m truly grateful to all my friends for helping me to realise that, whatever a restrictive sect tells you, there are many good people out here in the real world, and they are worthy of calling friends in the truest sense. Having these close friends is more healing than years of therapy and counselling, both of which I had originally thought I would need to recover from my past. I now firmly believe that if our past can be treated positively, regarded in a positive light, it is possible to learn from, and even be healed by, the same.
I wanted to close this blog post with thanks for a wonderful year, to all those near to me in heart, for all that you have done to bring me to now:
- My darling wife and soul mate Sylvie
- My family in England, distant from me geographically, but not in heart.
- My wonderful friends at school and in my social life. You know who you are, and you are appreciated!
- My pen friends, without whom this year could have seemed much emptier and rather lonely.
The list of names is huge, more like a block buster end credits, so I truly apologise for not putting the names above- I also wished to respect the privacy of some individuals who do not wish to have their names on the internet, but whose work is nonetheless greatly appreciated by many!
So a good night to the old year, and let us raise a metaphorical glass to 2011. May all of you be blessed!